Why the Mom’s Code?

i. Feelings about “The Job”

Over the years, I’ve primarily been a stay-at-home mom, but I’ve also worked outside of the home, so I’ve seen unique issues facing both sides. Both camps can feel like the other side has it easier, and each often feels judged by the other. Many stay-at-home moms wrestle with legitimacy and validation, while many working moms suffer from guilt and wish they could spend more time with their kids. But all moms share an intense desire to do a great job. Ultimately, their #1 priority is to raise healthy, happy children, and they absorb tremendous amounts of daily stress fielding child-rearing curveballs.

If you're a stay-at-home mom, do you sometimes feel less valued than women who work?


Have you ever regretted giving up your "career job" to raise your children?


Do you feel the "job" of raising your children is more difficult than any job you've ever held?


If you could start over, would you still make the same decisions again?


My friend is a working mom with a big job and wrestles with mom guilt all the time. No matter what she does, she feels like she can’t win.

– Caroline

Now that I’m the mom and in charge, I can’t imagine working for anyone else.

– Elena